Creating your romantic rustic wedding celebration

Needless to say rustic, romantic wedding have been on the upswing the past couple of years.  Blogs such as Style Me Pretty. have shown masterful works of photography with gorgeous, rustic wedding shoots that just beg every couple to find the perfect barn or weathered outpost building for their wedding or reception.

There are many venues to chose from in the tri state area for a romantic rustic wedding.  The first thing the couple needs to determine his how rustic is rustic.

We find that many of our  area couples want a good mix of romance with what I like to call a “hint of burlap”..  :)  They want the feeling to be romantic and whimsical with little vintage and rustic touches along the way.  Yes there may be some burlap, but we find the burlap is often a backdrop to lace and other soft elements in flowers, greenery and table settings.

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A fabulous backdrop of expose brick in the venue, soft exposed lighting, lace gown and a romantic monochromatic floral bouquet.

Setting the tone for an upscale rustic wedding does require a little work.  You want to have the details but need to keep them clean and fresh looking adding personal touches along the way.  What makes a rustic wedding special are really all the unique elements and details that tie in the personalities of the couple.

It could be anything from incorporating old photographs of family members in vintage frames to using skeleton keys with attached table  cards for their guests.  As a company we do find that mason jars of course are popular favor items (and we can create a number of glassware items for couples).  As a matter of fact, we were just asked to do custom hurricane lanterns for centerpieces at an upcoming wedding.    Although that wedding is not a rustic wedding theme, the idea of  custom hurricane lanterns is perfect for a rustic centerpiece.

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Remember the little things and creating vignettes at your wedding.  The details could be just a small grouping with a little fence, but the carving says it all.

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Wonderful little picture frames with inspirational love “sayings” inserted inside

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The above wedding stationery bringing a slight bit of lace t0 add elegance and gives a little more formal feeling to the celebration. This particular product that we carry also comes boxed which is now also a very popular way of sending invitations.

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The above invitation masterfully combines battenburg lace and a touch of burlap to create a unique rustic feel that can be embraced through the elements of your wedding.

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Lighting plays an important part in setting the mood and romance of any wedding.  I love candlelight to add gentle element lighting to a room.  These candles above are simple and lovely and little ribbon, a little lace and this bit of DYI is perfect for a cake table or to add a few for ambiance to guest tables.

Thanks again for stopping by our blog post.  If you have just found us, please book mark us and make us a favorite site!  We will certainly post all that his happening in our office and let you know of new trends we see in bridal and event stationery, favors, table top and other accessories.

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Pulling your black tie color palette together from paper through decor

One of the first couple of  questions I ask my couple is what type of a venue they are having their wedding, what season, and time of day.   Knowing many of the venues in the area, I already have an idea of the space, it’s color scheme and it’s layout.  In the instance of some places in NYC, MA and Newport (as we have done several weddings in all of those areas) I am a lover of pinterest boards and websites.

Many of our clients set up appointments through our website appointment scheduler, .  When they send their request, many times it includes information of the venue they are having their wedding and reception.   It gives me a great way to look at the venues and places of worship if the wedding is taking place outside the reception venue.

We recently supplied paper and additional accessories for wedding at two mansions in NY and a castle in England.  Reviewing the websites prior to the couples coming in made it so easy for us to work on their needs quickly.

A formal affair – creating a look of absolute elegance

Who doesn’t love a gorgeous lush formal affair.  I can’t tell you how many times a week I hear the word elegant in a sentence.

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Above is an invitation that goes the mile in elegant.  We love the rich gold luster of the paper on black, the fonts are magnificent and regal, the liner is simply spectacular along with having a black back pocket to coordinate all the paper – it is win win for the couple planning an elaborate affair especially if they have need for several pieces of paper.

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Something as simple as picking out a wedding stationery suite can lead to what needs you will have in filling your table and room.  Notice the little glistening gold candle votive above making itself the perfect mini orchid vase.   Or the tiny gold table lamp with shade.

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Here is another all time favorite Black Tie Winner!!  The folio cream invitation with cream ribbon wrapped in a luxurious black moire fabric folio.  This invitation is not to be missed.  It is elegant and has a tiny pocket in the front fold allowing additional papers to be included as a neat package.  This is perfect for a wedding of elegance where the bride is going for a very neutral palette of ivory flowers perhaps with a pop of color (perhaps a red or gold ) but most is cream, black and the pop color.

We have done matching wine glasses and wine bottles with imprinted monogram the above look.  We also have done wine labels for another couple giving bottles of wine to their rehearsal dinner guests.  In this particular suite, we included (not shown a champagne rehearsal card that stood out for those attending the rehearsal dinner.  We have also done other fabulous accessories (mini cakes in clear acrylic boxes seen below) that just complete a wonderful edible favor for your guests.

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Darling little chocolate cake with fondant top and flower with pearl.  Acrylic box, Black ribbon and top card complete the look.

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Creating the look around the colors of gold, black and a pop of red

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Now I love this Modern Trousseau wedding gown so very much I had to add it to this elegant ensemble look of papers and accessories shown above.   I am hoping that we can add this gown to a stylized photography shoot we are doing in April.   Such a sweeping beautifully designed gown.  Their styles are exquisite.  One of my all type favorite bridal designers.  The store that I know carry Modern Trousseau in Connecticut are:

My next blog will show some fabulous and elegant way to get a rustic feel without going totally burlap :)

Until then my friends thanks so much for following our blog.

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We  would like to give credit to Modern Trousseau for the above gorgeous photo of one of their 2015 bridal gown style.

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Choosing your wedding or event color palette wisely

Color is an extremely powerful element in our everyday lives.  I don’t think that people realize the power color has on our moods and feelings, unless of course they are in the design or photography fields.  Color in a very subtle way affects what we do with our purchasing dollars in everything from purchasing clothing,  bath towels to pots and pans.  Product manufacturers look all the time to determine color palettes that best suit the products they will be launching based on season and trends in the market.

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Good design is incredibly important as well, but color and color matching in creating a cohesive design and feel is by far one of the most important elements of creating and setting the tone of your wedding or event.

The biggest take away from all the interior design classes I had taken back at SUNY Purchase, is that color and texture make the world go round.  It is probably why I feel  badly for those individuals that suffer from color blindness.   They are missing so much with the nuances of shades and textures of color.  My son is mildly color blind, and it never ceases to amaze me on how difficult it is for him to see variations in color.

For instance the painting below of a field of lavender for me brings about feeling of the bright sun, a beautiful summer day and a fragrant field of lavender flowers.

The richness of the colors, tone, and texture within the painting are lovely and muted variation of color gives a sweeping calm feeling to the painting for me.  Although red is a  normally a very bold color, in this painting it adds a richness and different texture to the painting breaking up your view to create a warm focal point.

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In determining what colors to use in your wedding or event, you need to look to your venue selection to be sure that the overall look of the venue will follow suit with the color scheme that you wish to select. Look at the carpeting, the interior design of the space.  Will it need enhancement in lighting?  Does it it have neutral tones or a grandeur that fits your celebration?  Get to know and familiar yourself with tried and true color schemes that work well together and present a cohesive color palette.

Every year color palettes are created for the wedding industry based on what is going to be popping in the fashion world.  I have included a top 10 wedding color schemes below as a guide for our newly minted couples to be.

Trends in colors in weddings do stick pretty darn closely to what is hot in clothing and home color trends.  Although “themes” such as burlap, chalkboard, vintage have  their own tones of colors brought about by the merchandise that can be found within those themes.  Believe me sometimes I need a theme chart just to keep up with all that is available in various themes never mind the spectrum of colors within them.

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In my next blog post,  I will be showing some of the beautiful color schemes we have recently done in paper and accessories (since not everyone is on our Facebook page) and we have incorporated some of the products we carry in our showroom as well.

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Elizabeth and Nathaniel’s Perfect Wedding Day – The Inn at Longshore, Westport CT

I am one of these people that just likes to laugh.  I especially like to laugh with my clients.  You know when you have a connection with a someone.  There is just something that you both know is right in the world.  That everything you do will be perfect and everyone is going to have a great time working together.  Well that is exactly how I felt the moment I met Elizabeth.  I knew that we would just get along famously.  She has this wonderfully sweet personality and knows what she likes and how she wanted her wedding to unfold.

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Beautiful thoughtful Elizabeth

She came into my office and brought her and Nathaniel’s adorable daughter Mia.  If I’m not mistaken believe Mia played a bit  and colored with my daughter Aeryn while her mom and I poured over stationery.

What I loved most about Elizabeth was the smart easy flowing course of our conversation.  She wanted something lovely and romantic as a wedding invitation suite.  She saw her colors and was very in charge of what she felt would be perfect for her big day.

Even more, I appreciated the fact that she wasn’t afraid to ask questions or ask for recommendations on florists and photographers.  She used the services of some very talented people in the business that I recommended to her.  I was so happy that she just went for the gusto and got exactly what she wanted for their beautiful wedding.

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Elizabeth selected a beautiful champagne luster invitation in a raisin ink with a custom square cut envelope to announce their wedding celebration.

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Elizabeth and her very pretty little flower girl – her daughter Mia

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Nathaniel and his leading lady Elizabeth sealing their love with a kiss.

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The table setting was perfect for the color palette she selected, love  the neutral shades of her centerpiece  with a

burst of gold color in the plates and accent napkins.

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The handsome newlyweds – Nathaniel and Elizabeth

Wedding venue:  The Inn at Longshore

Wedding Photographer: Pictures are courtesy of Donna Cheung Photography

Wedding Flowers:  Ganim Garden Center & Florist, LLC

Wedding Stationery Suite:  The Persnickety Bride

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Merv’s Joyous 80th Birthday Bash – at the Stonehenge Inn, Ridgefield, CT

The moment Merv and Sherry B. walked into my office, I knew I was going to enjoy my time creating the perfect 80th birthday invitations and favors for them.  Merv is just a fun gentleman to be around.  He is charming and has a terrific sense of humor.    His wife Sherry is elegant and sweet.  She knew she wanted to throw him a great birthday bash.  He kept on poo pooing that she was making such a fuss.  You could see that they just enjoyed bantering back and forth with each other…  He would tease her and she would look the other way and continue on with the dialog of putting his special day together.


The lovely couple – “80 Years Young” Merv and his beautiful bride Sherry

Sherry chose a wonderful acrylic invitation.  I was excited to do a different type of invitation.  There are so many new products that you can use to fabricate invitations from these days, we have acrylic, board, metal, even leather.  It’s fun when people get creative with their printed materials. 

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The white and wine looked beautiful together and it was a masculine interesting invitation for a pretty cool guy!

 It was placed in a cream colored envelope with a matching wine colored liner.

We also recreated the impressive initial on the back of the envelope flap to match the invitation.

We did do electronic calligraphy that way  that way Sherry wouldn’t have to fuss with writing anything out and they  would be all ready to mail.

Once we finished with the invitations, Sherry wanted something special to give to her guests as a memento of the evening.  I put on my thinking cap and knowing that I wanted them to have a  favor that their guests would keep and remember that evening.  I have a great company that does beautiful leather items and I just loved their measuring tapes.

Sherry came up with “Merv measuring time”

We suggested a couple fonts and the font Sherry chose certainly reminds us of Merv’s fun personality!

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Each measuring tape was packaged in a gift box and made for a nice little take away for the evening.


The birthday boy and his absolutely precious grand daughter.

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Venue: Stonehenge Inn and Restaurant, Ridgefield, CT

Family Pictures: Courtesy of Merv and Sherry B

Acrylic Invitation and Leather Measuring Tape Favor, The Persnickety Bride, Sandy Hook, CT

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Finding your color & style – Example of luxury in hues of cream, champagne and blush

The first thing I find when couples walk into my office is that  most have a particular style that they are looking to achieve  in their wedding design.

The vast majority have colors that they have chosen for their wedding party to wear and some even like to match their papers and accessories to the tones found in the venue that they have chosen for their wedding celebration.

It is interesting to see that many couples believe they are going to make mistakes when putting together a theme or color palate for their wedding.  I honestly believe that there are no mistakes just a couple simple rules of thumb to follow and you will be all set.

Are you looking to achieve a sharp contemporary/modern look to your wedding or a classic elegant wedding?

Are you more laid back in your style or are you going more for the black tie affair?

Are you in love with a country barn theme look or are you more along the lines of vintage style and glam?

Do you envision your wedding in the city, by the ocean, on a farm or a vineyard ?

Depending on your colors, and your venue there are a plethora of products in stationery and accessories that can be found or created to suit every couples needs.  I go by the go with your gut when telling a couple how to achieve their wedding “look”.

An example that I would like to show is below of a monochromatic wedding style of elegant hues of cream, champagne and blush.  I also show a menu from another wedding in a stronger luster gold, champagne and cream.

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Above is a fabulous , champagne ,cream and luster menu (which we used as a starting point to create Danielle and Anthony’s menu)  we had previously created the above menu for another wedding and just changed out the look for Danielle and Anthony with bahama paper (as shown in their wedding stationery below).

As you can see above this is a stronger hue of creams and gold above and is a bit of a bolder statement to the lighter hues shown below in Danielle and Anthony’s ensemble of papers and accessories.  Both are spectacular and yet both very different.

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The wedding stationery was flawless created again using the  hues of the wedding party’s attire, flowers (as shown below)  and look that the couple wanted to achieve in party by the venue they selected. We happen to love the look of this invitation with the ribbon.  So well suited to the bride.  She was just elegant, stunning and the groom is a great guy.

We also created a letterpress Save The Date that included a map of NYC as the liner – it was very elegant and so perfect for their Manhattan wedding.  I will post that gorgeous piece when I do a blog post on letter press.   It did not match the invitation suite – but again people need to remember that not everything needs to match.

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Although I don’t take credit for creating that fabulous tree (I believe it is already in the venue) – the table cards were all done in cream and sable with Swarvoski crystals on each one to catch the light from the tree arrangement.  It made for a marvelous focal point.  Flowers shown are by Stamford Florist.Screen Shot 2015-01-02 at 10.17.49 PM

Lastly we created this fabulous custom card box along with the pen and guest book set also with crystals attached.  These can be done in an array of colors.  It is such a fabulous look for a bride that really wants to coordinate items for her big day.  With this line we can also do stationery boxes, tufted favor boxes, table tents and menu jackets.  The sky is really the limit and they are exquisite hand crafted pieces.  Flowers shown are by Stamford Florist.

To see more gorgeous images by the incredible Ira Lipkke Studio please visit the Carats and Cakes link below.  It was our pleasure to work with this great couple and to be part of their beautiful wedding celebration.

Wedding stationery suite, menu and all accessories shown:  The Persnickety Bride, Sandy Hook, CT

Flowers shown: Stamford Florist

Fabulous photography courtesy of Ira Lipkke Studio

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The fabulous Black and Fuchsia Wedding of Steph and Justin – at Aria in Prospect, CT

Over the years, we have had such an incredible array of couples walk through our doors.  Each have very special needs and wants with regard to how their wedding or event is going to take place.  The styles they love, the look they were trying to achieve.

So when I get Steph’s e-mail asking a very specific type of acrylic picture frame favor item, I couldn’t wait to meet her.  She was also recommended from another couple who I just adored working with on their wedding, so I knew we would have a great time.

It turned out in meeting with Steph that she was going to become sister in law to another lovely bride I had worked with a few years early.

Well this young lady came in with her multi watt smile such a fun incredible personality, I couldn’t wait to get started on her project.

We started on working on her customized picture frame, which was going to be imprinted in a Fuchsia color.  We then needed to find the perfect ring pillow and I think we hit it out of the park with the XOXO custom ring pillow in Black, Fuchsia and White.  We then worked on her table cards that certainly weren’t boring!  We did them with Swarovski crystals so that they would shine in the foyer near the lovely centerpiece created for the table.

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The fabulous bride and groom Steph and Justin

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Can we get any more fun than this handsome group with shades!

Check out the fabulous flowers, shoes, ties and men’s kerchief.

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We are finding that so many of our brides and grooms are renting the big party buses either for themselves or for their guests.

I just got a kick how this bus really carried into Steph and Justin’s wedding theme perfectly!

Now on to the creations of The Persnickety Bride

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Before the wedding begins we have our XOXO ring pillow in white, black and fuchsia.  Yes it is in fuchsia as well,

just a little hard to see in this picture angle.  The back is all XO’s in black and fuchsia with their names on the front of the pillow in fuchsia.

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Next up are the lovely table cards with Swarvoski crystals that give a little sparkle to the entrance foyer table.

Centered with a beautiful flower arrangement.

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 Below is the custom picture frame done to suite what the photo booth picture was going to be

instead of just a strip photo – Steph and Justin’s photos were going to be 4 x 6 horizontal.

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The bride put a lovely note in fuchsia at all the place settings of her guests

to welcome them and thank them for being part of their wedding.  A lovely touch.

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The floral arrangements were high to keep out of the line of conversation.

The picture frame favors around the table make for a stunning focal point at the table setting.

Steph’s aunt and uncle were the florists that designed and worked with the bride and groom

on their floral needs.

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I got the chance to swing by during the cocktail hour and see three of my favorite brides!

Pictured here yours truly in the blue, the lovely bride Steph, the lovely new sister-in-law Leigh and best friend to the new sister in laws the lovely Casey.

How I enjoyed working with all of these ladies on their weddings.

All photos below are taking by Video Images Photography & Video,  North Haven, CT

 All flowers created and arranged by Rose Flowers and Gifts, Meriden, CT – Owners are Joann and Fred

Wedding facility Aria, Prospect, CT

Paper and accessories shown:  Created by The Persnickety Bride  Sandy Hook, CT

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Partying up with the rest of Connecticut wedding professionals – Celebrating 2015!

On January 22nd, I got together with a number of wedding professionals at the Wadsworth Mansion in Middletown CT to celebrate the end of the 2014 wedding season.   It was the perfect break before the rush of the 2015 wedding season!

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I find this business out of all of my businesses the most interesting.  Wedding professionals are all about being there for their client.  It is all about service and making our clients big day be exceptional!

There is a tremendous wedding talent pool in the Connecticut area.  Especially in the area of photography.  It is exceptionally interesting

to see how they all seem to know one another.  So just remember, if you try to get a photographer and they can’t take your job

believe me they all know one another and are easy to recommend others if they can’t do the job themselves.

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Me (in the green) and all my lovely photographer friends.

What I loved most about this party as being a girl behind the scenes in what we make for brides I normally meet wedding professionals at the shows that we do throughout the year.  This gave me an opportunity to meet hair and makeup stylists, a few musicians a clergy or two that we have never had the opportunity to meet in the past.  It was a great time with great people who seriously know how to let loose and party.

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Sifting through well meaning wedding advice… and having productive vendor meetings

Now the first thing you will probably do once you get engaged is sign up for an on line account either with The Knot or Wedding Wire.  You may even take out an account on each of them just to see their functionality and which one works best for you.  Both sites offer ways of setting budgets and tracking guest lists amongst a host of other features.

You will also want to get to get together the future in laws or whoever will be “helping out” with the costs of the wedding for a little pow wow.  If you can’t physically get everyone together, then you will need to discuss separately what costs will be handled by what side of the family.   More and more we are seeing couples come to our offices that are paying for the majority of the wedding themselves.  When this happens, I find there is little discussion at all with their parents and how they are planning on  running their wedding.  I laugh when I get an adamant response from a couple of “we are paying for the wedding so they have nothing to say in the matter”..

I have to admit that when the “kids” as I lovingly call all my couples have say over their wedding planning for the most part it goes rather smoothly.  They all pretty much agree on most things that get chosen.  Even with a couple opinions back and forth the decision making process goes rather smoothly.  Rarely do I find a situation like below of “control or delete” – but went I do I find that offering common ground solutions what everyone wants is what is going to move the process and purchase along smoothly.


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Remember:  you are getting married for  a reason.  You love one another.  One of the first rules of love is compromise.

Trust when I say there will be a lot more compromising to come – work together on planning your wedding.

Now what if your parents or guardians are helping with the cost of the wedding?  How much input do you want them to or not to have in the selection of the venue, food, stationery, favors and the rest of the day.   Well, it truly all depends on you and your future spouse.

One of the best rules of thumb is to get to the money part first and break down a budget.  Get as realistic as you can based on where you want to be on each element of the day.   Everyone is going to want to give advice.  Some people will be more forthcoming than others and those may just grate on your last nerve.  Having a plan of what you would like to see happen and a budget will help everyone stay focused.  I have found that most engaged couples work towards trying to please a little of everyone but are sensible enough to focus on their needs.  You may in fact have a pushy mom or future MIL  (yes we have seen them) who really is pushing their taste in the selection of items.   That’s why it is important to select vendors that can help see everyones point of you but most importantly bring to the engaged couple items that meet the taste and expectations of their day and respectfully pleasing the parental units or other family and friends at the same time.


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Parental Pow Wow Time

Just remember it is your wedding with a dose of “Mom’s input”

It is all about compromise and keeping your cool.

This my friends I call being a wedding referee.   I have been one many a times.  Our job is helping the couple smooth the differences of opinion and get to the point of satisfaction and happiness in their purchase from us.   We can’t make all family problems and arguments disappear, but we can certainly get all parties to a point of feeling good on what they have selected and move on from that point.   I am also finding that there are many times I am just dealing with either the bride or groom on the stationery, favor and accessory pieces of the wedding.  They break down the chores of what needs to get done and tackle it all separately.  I do find this refreshing in a way because you do see them giving each other a great level of trust in the selection process.  Remember it is OK to just take on separate pieces of the planning.  Your future spouse does not need to be included on every thing if they don’t have the time or inclination to do it.

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Sister’s roll as self proclaimed “Wedding Planner”

Respect opinions because they are coming from a loving place.

Continue to stay true to the goals that you have set as a couple planning your wedding.

Rules of thumb for couples visiting vendors:

No matter what vendor you are meeting with try to stick to the following rule of thumb:

Bring only those necessary to a vendor meeting – Only those involved in the decision making process should be at a vendor meeting.  I have had people bring up to seven people to a meeting.  It isn’t productive and causes more confusion and stress for you.   In the event your future spouse has no interest in what you select as a paper product or favors – don’t drag him or her out.  It may be exciting for you and boring for them.  If they are marrying you, they trust your opinion on this one.  Nothing is worst than a bored spouse to be that wants to be home watching a game or doing that deadline project for work.

Be on time.  This is a meeting.  Just like any business meeting, being on time is important.  There is a chunk of time scheduled for you.  Your vendor wants to give you 100% of their attention  in order for you to make an informed decision.  So arriving on time accomplishes that goal.

Have a guideline of pictures, ideas and the number of people that you are invited ready for your vendor.  Bring that iPad and show off that pinterest page.  The more a vendor knows in the first 5 minutes of your meeting, the more productive that meeting will be.  We have a sheet that gets filled out with all our couple’s information.  That way we can refer to it time and time again during the course of the meeting to insure that we have all the couple’s information.  If you have item numbers that you have found on the vendor’s website or specific items you see in their office.  Ask them about it at the time of the meeting.  Always remember to get a focus on all the potential items you may need.  They may not be able to get you pricing right away but it is all on their radar to follow up with you.  Lastly, be sure to understand your time frames for delivery.  Especially on custom items.  Follow up meeting may be required for flowers, venue food selection, DJ music selection as well as specially lighting or effects decisions.  It goes without saying that you will need a couple appointments for gowns, suits and the like so get your calendar in gear and your time lines in order.

If you want to work quickly and effectively and have time constraints and want to use the services of the vendor make the commitment.  Sign the contract, leave the check – in other words make the commitment.  I say this as during peak wedding season there are many couples all seeking to get  detail items of their wedding completed.  Vendors as well as manufacturing suppliers get inundated with very specific and detail oriented jobs to complete in a timely fashion.  Our job is to deliver perfection 100% of the time.  In order to do this, we need to know if your project is going to be on our docket so that it may be scheduled and worked on with the type of care you would give a new born baby.  That’s right, a good vendor will treat your wedding like what it is to you.. your very first big production!  So make the commitment if you are going to use the vendor so they know where they stand.  If they contact you to follow up, be polite and respond as quickly as you hope they would – with a quick e-mail back stating where you are in the purchasing process.

Do your research on vendors.  It is important that you do your homework and read on line reviews as well as blog posts, Facebook and twitter done by a vendor in the event industry.  If there is good information and testimonials believe me they will be out there for everyone to read.   We live and die by our reviews and what people say about us.  It is an extremely important part of being in the event business.  I am only as good as my last wedding or event.  I believe whether you buy on line from The Persnickety Bride or come into our offices – everyone should be treated with the utmost respect and receive the highest quality service.  That is why we are “Persnickety” in all that we do!

Most of all remember this is suppose to be FUN.  Make it a fun process.  Find fun and tried and true vendors to work with in creating your big day.   It’s suppose to be a wonderful time.  Do not stress the small stuff.

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Now raise a glass and toast to smooth sailing through your wedding process journey.

If you have any questions for us at The Persnickety Bride, please ask away.  We are happy to help!

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Picture perfect – it is all in the details…

We have been so fortunate to be involved in some incredibly beautiful wedding celebrations.

 All different types of weddings from platinum luxury manhattan weddings , elaborate Indian weddings with multi day activities, to barn and beach barbecue weddings.

We have literally worked hand in hand in creating beautiful stationery and custom items for all of them.   Each are all very different and very special.   They  have the individualized stamp of each couple and their family embedded into the rich fabric of the day.  The message of love and devotion is the same – but the hues, colors and themes are always so unique.

Below, are two wedding in which The Persnickety Bride received blog features.  One wedding in the on line blog  Carats and Cakes and the other in  Borrowed and Blue.

Enjoy looking over these beautiful celebrations.  They may even give you some great wedding inspirations!

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